lol to the tittle.
i had a bf once. he was an okay guy. i liked him and decided to tell him something that no one outside of my family really knew about me, that i was chronically depressed. he dumped me saying he could not love somebody who does not love them self.
he only loves himself though. he only cares about how his body looks and how many girls are hanging on his shoulders.
so the next relationship i had was a pity one. i cared for the guy very little. i was very centered on myself. he had panic attacks. i would hold him through it. no matter how centered i become on myself i cannot turn someone down when they are in pain. strange enough he was able to cheat on me twice. i forgave him the first time and the second time it was perfect timing for me to cut it off. he says i taught him to love.
after that he went on a long journey to self realization, after which he finally settled down and found a nice girl.
the next relationship that came around i decided to love myself equally to how i love him. we are now married and have a baby. our relationship has its ups and downs but overall the fact that i am able to stand up for what i believe in while meeting with his needs as well, taught me that sometimes i just have to cover up my actions to later uncover them in a big point making argument, which i win, exactly because of this secret tactic!
thus agree to disagree and try not to criticize too much. the less you criticize the more likely you will receive less criticism. although it is impossible to built a perfect system in which everyone's needs will be met, at least we can say we tried and at least meet the basic needs of everybody!
i love all of you without exception! i love myself and through this love i am able to love all! if i love myself and love all then i do not need to expect love in return, for someone already loves me= me!
love and light and love,
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