If you love some one set them free.

[FooSnik]

[MarkM]

if you love someone, bask by the fire of your mutual glow, feeling the draw of the mutual glow, and contemplate the attraction that impels you together, free from promises, commitments, and obligation.

although our lives here mandate promises, commitment and obligation, you may perhaps find and rekindle your love, or attract a love, by finding and feeling what pulls you together, and just basking in that and being familiar with that, not allowing this to be covered by a sense of obligation or feeling emotionally indebted.

the great loves don't work from an overriding sense of mutual obligation, but rather mutual empowerment and magnification of life energy, making the purpose of the relationship to be a tacit delight in each other, and making the premise of the relationship to be for the joy of it.

it's easy to fall into a place where you are almost like business partners, with life's issues so filling your days that certain responses become automatic, and owed.

so dig back to what first attracted you, for there you may find again the reason for love.

markm

[FooSnik]

yes, yes. well said. so much of it makes sense and i have experienced that "business partner" relationship.

but one thing that really bothers me is that "mutual glow". i feel like i need that glow from the other person. when that glow is withdrawn and denied me it makes me crazy.

i guess i need to figure out why this is so disturbing to me. and it is also scary to me that if i don't keep up my daily affairs it will spell disaster for me.

i do realize that people need to protect themselves and at the same time you cannot always be unconditional with people.

anyway, thanks for your show of support and wisdom.

foo

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hi

well well. i just posted in the synchronicitythread that my main lifelesson as a very plutonic scorpio is to let go and i bump into this! synchronicities all over the forum, all threads are one in the web of life

:d liliane

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hi

mercury has been retrograde and is now slowly going direct, often this is the time when the "mirroring" has a "boost". i just answered the help carla post, and discovered this one that i was the last to answer in 2008! like i'm meeting myself as "an old friend popping up" a coomon thing to happen under mercury retrograde and stationary going direct.

the weather has been sunny and snowy for 2 weeks in gothenburg which is very rare and today i was watching seagulls flying in the sky with the sun lighting up their wings from beneath

actually some of my friends i had "problems with" are coming back and i'm really working on freeing myself from codependencybonds..

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[abysmaltouch]

thank you for this

i'm having trouble let go of someone very dear to me- this fits the situation so well...

makes plenty of sense

[Roxy]

hi,
i smiled when i read your posts. i think that being down when a loved one showed "another face" is awful..but yet, even with all meditation my heart is still aching from time to time. how do ideal this with the law of attraction? maybe is me atracting people who cheat me? how could this be possible? maybe i feel i don't "deserve" a man as the one i see in my visions? i'll think about it and try harder
however the moon tonight is simply beautiful!
love,
roxy

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hi

mercury has been retrograde and is now slowly going direct, often this is the time when the "mirroring" has a "boost". i just answered the help carla post, and discovered this one that i was the last to answer in 2008! like i'm meeting myself as "an old friend popping up" a coomon thing to happen under mercury retrograde and stationary going direct.

the weather has been sunny and snowy for 2 weeks in gothenburg which is very rare and today i was watching seagulls flying in the sky with the sun lighting up their wings from beneath

actually some of my friends i had "problems with" are coming back and i'm really working on freeing myself from codependencybonds..

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:dmercury going retrograde again! (3 times a year) and same thing happens! i read through an old post and encounter myself from long ago!

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...makes me wonder where foosnik disappeared...sent you 2 pm:s...perhaps a lesson of "letting go"

merry christmas anyway from transiten

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hi,
i smiled when i read your posts. i think that being down when a loved one showed "another face" is awful..but yet, even with all meditation my heart is still aching from time to time. how do ideal this with the law of attraction? maybe is me atracting people who cheat me? how could this be possible? maybe i feel i don't "deserve" a man as the one i see in my visions? i'll think about it and try harder
however the moon tonight is simply beautiful!
love,
roxy

yes yes! look in the mirror that you relationships show you nad see yourself, even if exaggerated! read davids blog on codependency, often we play both roels of victimand abuser in different relationships. also the fear of closeness is a hughe issue.

look/turn inside and search your self, that's the most important person in the world for you and treat others the way you want to be treated which also means don't let anyone else treat you with disrespect.

codependency can also be a perverted way of egotrip, "look how much i'm able to love you, i'm better than you and you should reward me for that...but don't expect the hangman to understand you if you don't even understand you own motives and he will only turn more aggressive when yiou show the victimside but alo when you stand up for yourself so just take yourself by the hand and walk away.

you don't have to hug or be with or talk to those who don't treat you well, you can draw healthy boundaries and love them at the soul level. listen to the last episode on blogtalkradio with carla rueckert.

it's difficult to love yourself if you didn't get that love in childhood or if the love was abusive in some way but just hang in there, study yourself, forgive yourself and others, imagine yourself as that little child you once were ...talking to myself here

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