Grant me being

[Neil Haddon]

hi all,
i stumbled onto the website of david keirsey,a temperament coach, and was taken
by this introduction to his book, [email neil if interested or do a search on
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it seems to me to be completely in line with law of one teachings, and so
appropriate for the attitudes which sadly we all face today:



if i do not want what you want, please try not to tell me that my want is wrong.

or if i believe other than you, at least pause before you correct my view.

or if my emotion is less than yours, or more, given the same circumstances, try
not to ask me to feel more strongly or weakly.

or yet if i act, or fail to act, in the manner of your design for action, let me
be.

i do not, for the moment at least, ask you to understand me. that will come only
when you are willing to give up changing me into a copy of you.

i may be your spouse, your parent, your offsping, your friend, or your
colleague. if you will allow me any of my own wants, or emotions, or beliefs, or
actions, then you open yourself, so that some day these ways of mine might not
seem so wrong, and might finally appear to you as right -- for me.

to put up with me is the first step to understanding me. not that you embrace my
ways as right for you, but that you are no longer irritated or disappointed with
me for my seeming waywardness.

and in understanding me you might come to prize my differences from you, and,
far from seeking to change me, preserve and even nurture those differences.



love.

neil


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[Mel Malin]

hi neil,

thank you for sharing this quote of david keirsey.
i can't recall anyone at the moment who wouldn't benefit from this reminder
of tolerance.
all parts of the self are equally relevant and do benefit themselves and the
world immensely by remaining true to oneself....as long as it harms no one else.
the last paragraph stating that, "you may come to prize my differences from
you...." brings to mind a saying i heard recently:
if both of us agree on everything, then one of us is unnecessary.
viva la differences!

blessings to all,
meli



neil haddon <wayshower@... (/group/asc2k/post?postid=ptuw9imf_vpiwp6-qlfnmgic4gkoqgou9jh1tox6zm_wn7bodakofd_dvbkytv8bve 3hr62yvfq-m56z)> wrote:
hi all,
i stumbled onto the website of david keirsey,a temperament coach, and was taken
by this introduction to his book, [email neil if interested or do a search on
kiersy-moderator]