Melissa
03-13-2005, 09:40 AM
> Also, a question for the group...
> I tend to be someone who is "too" trusting often. I
> have always felt that trust is a good thing and I like
> to be trusted by others so tend to be trusting unless
> I find a reason not to. Unfortunately this has opened
> up a few too many situations for me to be taken
> advantage of for my taste. I would prefer to keep
> being able to be trusting of people, but not sure
> where I'm going wrong. Is it basically that I need
> better discernment of who I should trust? Should I
> not be so trusting? Of course I'm not really
> expecting you to tell me exactly what to do here, just
> trying to pose my question. I'm curious if other
> people here struggle with the same problem?
>
> I think maybe because I'm a wanderer that I really
> just don't see it coming? When people are going to
> take advantage of me? How can you stop getting taken
> advantage of in situations when you don't see it
> coming? Any thoughts?
>
Hi Lovie...
This is an area within myself that I also have a huge struggle with.
My latest line is "I live to serve, I serve to live..." because I
find that I spend probably 90% of my time on others. It seems that
no matter how conscious I am of being less STO, in order to more
focus on my own needs, I fall right back into that pattern. While I
take in a lot of stress and suffering from others, which can feel
like a burden, I simply cannot seem to make myself stop caring fully
about whatever area of positive well-being I can offer to those I
encounter. I have been told for years and YEARS that it is my
downfall, that I care too much and help too much (TOO STO, TOO
Loving, TOO Trusting, etc.). I have been taken advantage of more
times than I can count, but have somehow always been able to maintain
that it was a lesson learned by he/she who took advantage, as well as
myself. I am still here and still most often better off
psychologically (accepting my own realities of self AND other selves)
and often environmentally (I have a home, a job, enough food, etc.)
than many of those whom I have chosen to 'help'. Regardless of how
frequently I am criticized for trusting and giving my time to others,
it is simply innate to this particular 3D existence in which I find
myself. I think of it as a gift, many of those who have known me
well think of it as a fault. I have had MANY conversations regarding
my inability to even fathom that I could LOVE to a FAULT...How can
that be??? And more importantly, how can something like that be
CHANGED and why would I want to give effort toward callousnes?
Doesn't it comes to SOME degree with age and wisdom without my
intently seeking hardening anyhoo?? All I KNOW is that it is ME and
I simply accept that genuinely trusting and loving all whom I come
into contact with is my particular purpose.
I have certainly learned when to kind of step back from someone who
is draining my trust and love with deception and lack of concience,
but to allow it to take over how I judge/react to all is simply not
something I am even able to do. Just be yourself and follow your own
particular instincts, being a Wanderer can and will be a difficult
incarnation, but what a GIFT it is to see beyond the mainstream
ideals and into the loving utopia we can only strive toward. We ARE
all ONE afterall... I would rather be 'this' than a member of
the 'cattle' we all watch being ushered toward greed (materialism),
ego (I am BETTER because I have more) and all else that is irrelevant
to our actual purpose and progress toward LOVE and Positive Planetary
Polarity...
I am sorry to ramble, this subject did strike a very personal note
within myself as I struggle (suffer) with and remain thankful for the
gift/burdon of Love and Faith in All...
It CERTAINLY is not easy...
Love & Light...
...Missy
> I tend to be someone who is "too" trusting often. I
> have always felt that trust is a good thing and I like
> to be trusted by others so tend to be trusting unless
> I find a reason not to. Unfortunately this has opened
> up a few too many situations for me to be taken
> advantage of for my taste. I would prefer to keep
> being able to be trusting of people, but not sure
> where I'm going wrong. Is it basically that I need
> better discernment of who I should trust? Should I
> not be so trusting? Of course I'm not really
> expecting you to tell me exactly what to do here, just
> trying to pose my question. I'm curious if other
> people here struggle with the same problem?
>
> I think maybe because I'm a wanderer that I really
> just don't see it coming? When people are going to
> take advantage of me? How can you stop getting taken
> advantage of in situations when you don't see it
> coming? Any thoughts?
>
Hi Lovie...
This is an area within myself that I also have a huge struggle with.
My latest line is "I live to serve, I serve to live..." because I
find that I spend probably 90% of my time on others. It seems that
no matter how conscious I am of being less STO, in order to more
focus on my own needs, I fall right back into that pattern. While I
take in a lot of stress and suffering from others, which can feel
like a burden, I simply cannot seem to make myself stop caring fully
about whatever area of positive well-being I can offer to those I
encounter. I have been told for years and YEARS that it is my
downfall, that I care too much and help too much (TOO STO, TOO
Loving, TOO Trusting, etc.). I have been taken advantage of more
times than I can count, but have somehow always been able to maintain
that it was a lesson learned by he/she who took advantage, as well as
myself. I am still here and still most often better off
psychologically (accepting my own realities of self AND other selves)
and often environmentally (I have a home, a job, enough food, etc.)
than many of those whom I have chosen to 'help'. Regardless of how
frequently I am criticized for trusting and giving my time to others,
it is simply innate to this particular 3D existence in which I find
myself. I think of it as a gift, many of those who have known me
well think of it as a fault. I have had MANY conversations regarding
my inability to even fathom that I could LOVE to a FAULT...How can
that be??? And more importantly, how can something like that be
CHANGED and why would I want to give effort toward callousnes?
Doesn't it comes to SOME degree with age and wisdom without my
intently seeking hardening anyhoo?? All I KNOW is that it is ME and
I simply accept that genuinely trusting and loving all whom I come
into contact with is my particular purpose.
I have certainly learned when to kind of step back from someone who
is draining my trust and love with deception and lack of concience,
but to allow it to take over how I judge/react to all is simply not
something I am even able to do. Just be yourself and follow your own
particular instincts, being a Wanderer can and will be a difficult
incarnation, but what a GIFT it is to see beyond the mainstream
ideals and into the loving utopia we can only strive toward. We ARE
all ONE afterall... I would rather be 'this' than a member of
the 'cattle' we all watch being ushered toward greed (materialism),
ego (I am BETTER because I have more) and all else that is irrelevant
to our actual purpose and progress toward LOVE and Positive Planetary
Polarity...
I am sorry to ramble, this subject did strike a very personal note
within myself as I struggle (suffer) with and remain thankful for the
gift/burdon of Love and Faith in All...
It CERTAINLY is not easy...
Love & Light...
...Missy