FooSnik
02-25-2011, 06:29 PM
hello everybody. now and again something will ring my bell so loud that i simply must share. there has been another understanding that has been developing in my mind for the last couple of weeks. a lot of it has occurred because i have been steeping myself lately in the idea of "shadow work".
so i was laying in bed with my girlfriend the other night and usually i will say something like, "sweet dreams" or "sleep good" or something like that. but this night, something just came out of my mouth that i was not expecting. i said, "i hope you dream what you need." and i froze when i said that. i thought, that was not necessarily a sweet loving thing to say. it almost felt kind of cold and mean. like saying, "i hope you get what you deserve".
but then i thought back to a definition of love that i tend to prefer which is: "love is the will to extend one’s self for the purpose of nurturing one’s own or another’s spiritual growth." considering this definition of love then wishing someone to get what they need is actually a higher kind of love then just wishing someone to always be happy and therefore never encountering adversity, which leads to growth. so, imo, to wish someone what they need, and also stick around to support him/her through whatever emerges from their shadow side, is a profound sort of love, indeed.
and then i thought of what someone told me once which is, "you don't get the dog you want, you get the dog you need." this person was implying that, a lot of the times (i'm not saying all the time), we get the perfect dog that will challenge us to grow in certain needed areas of our life.
now to overlay this line of thought over all of life we can see this everywhere the universe will most of the time give us the job, kids, girlfriend/boyfriend, mother/father, etc... that we need for our spiritual growth. the universe will give us something to reflect something that we have buried away in our shadow side and hidden. something we need to face and overcome. by the universe giving us what we need it is offering us our fears and challenging us to face them. and therefore loving us more then just giving us what we want and putting a baby's pacifier in our mouths.
so to sum it all up, this post was mostly inspired by the rolling stones song that goes: "you can't always get what you want (no) but if you try sometimes you just might find. you get what you need." but in this song i think they are mostly talking about desires such as money and such. you don't always get everything you want but you will always, at least, have the basics. meaning you won't starve and die. but for me, this song has a new meaning, in that it means that the universe loves us so much that it doesn't give us all our desires. it gives us the challenges we need to grow and ascend.
peace and love,
foo
so i was laying in bed with my girlfriend the other night and usually i will say something like, "sweet dreams" or "sleep good" or something like that. but this night, something just came out of my mouth that i was not expecting. i said, "i hope you dream what you need." and i froze when i said that. i thought, that was not necessarily a sweet loving thing to say. it almost felt kind of cold and mean. like saying, "i hope you get what you deserve".
but then i thought back to a definition of love that i tend to prefer which is: "love is the will to extend one’s self for the purpose of nurturing one’s own or another’s spiritual growth." considering this definition of love then wishing someone to get what they need is actually a higher kind of love then just wishing someone to always be happy and therefore never encountering adversity, which leads to growth. so, imo, to wish someone what they need, and also stick around to support him/her through whatever emerges from their shadow side, is a profound sort of love, indeed.
and then i thought of what someone told me once which is, "you don't get the dog you want, you get the dog you need." this person was implying that, a lot of the times (i'm not saying all the time), we get the perfect dog that will challenge us to grow in certain needed areas of our life.
now to overlay this line of thought over all of life we can see this everywhere the universe will most of the time give us the job, kids, girlfriend/boyfriend, mother/father, etc... that we need for our spiritual growth. the universe will give us something to reflect something that we have buried away in our shadow side and hidden. something we need to face and overcome. by the universe giving us what we need it is offering us our fears and challenging us to face them. and therefore loving us more then just giving us what we want and putting a baby's pacifier in our mouths.
so to sum it all up, this post was mostly inspired by the rolling stones song that goes: "you can't always get what you want (no) but if you try sometimes you just might find. you get what you need." but in this song i think they are mostly talking about desires such as money and such. you don't always get everything you want but you will always, at least, have the basics. meaning you won't starve and die. but for me, this song has a new meaning, in that it means that the universe loves us so much that it doesn't give us all our desires. it gives us the challenges we need to grow and ascend.
peace and love,
foo